Nobody goes through life without making mistakes.
We cannot move forward in life holding on to baggage of the past. We have not been crowned Judge, Jury and Executioner! In fact “let she who is without sin cast the first stone”! Nobody goes through life without making mistakes. But it is often difficult not to take things personally when it comes from our own mother! Whether our mother is a “Saint” or “Sinner” it is a reflection of her life trials and trauma and not our value! Our wounded inner child often comes from our negative attachment to our mother’s behavior. All of us are unique and wonderful children of God, mother and child. Whether we conduct ourselves in awareness of this knowledge can often be a different story.
What fantasies have we made up in our minds about what she should or should not have done, said, or created?
What story are we telling ourselves about our mother? What fantasies have we made up in our minds about what she should or should not have done, said, or created? What pain has this produced in us? Are we still suffering from our mother falling off the pedestal we put them on? Some of our mothers never had a pedestal or are missing in action physically, mentally or emotionally and we feel abandoned. Some of our mothers are or have been abusive. They may never change but we have opportunities to make changes within ourselves. We can pray for them. But our mothers have to make their own changes within themselves.
We do the forgiveness work within for ourselves.
If you are blessed to have your mother still with you or if she has transcended to the next life, there is always an opportunity to forgive. If she does not have ears to hear physically, she can still be contacted spiritually from our heart. We do the forgiveness work within for ourselves. As adults we have to stop blaming our past or we will repeat those patterns in the future. No one person could ever be the answer to all our needs, questions and concerns in life. Our mother is just one member of the Village that helps make a well-rounded adult. It is time to forgive and move on!
Our mother is just one member of the Village that helps make a well-rounded adult.
My desires were more diverse than the aspect of mothering my mother could share. I was blessed that she stimulated and held an unlimited vision for my future. She encouraged me to look outside of her for guidance in other areas. This is what led me to Self-Mothering. It emboldened me to seek out the 22 women in my Mothers’ Council that have assisted me along the way. Some of them I found in the pages of history. Some of them I found at the Crossroads of my life’s decisions. Some I found next to me in the journey of life. But what I found was healing, forgiveness of myself and others, and an appreciation for the lessons I have learned. Forgiveness opens the heart to giving, sharing and caring.
Forgiveness opens the heart to giving, sharing and caring.
Self-Mothering helps us see the weakness as well as the divinity in all of God’s children. My Mother’s encourage self-forgiveness and forgiveness of others. On this Mother’s Day, May 13, 2018 make an opportunity to see the true divine nature of your mother and celebrate that with an open heart of compassion and love.
